Hello everyone, I just have to say thankyou to all you lovely people who have sent me their very deepest sypathies and good wishes following the death of my mother. There is a story behind the difficult and complex relationship I had with her. I have had it suggested to me by a very dear friend, she knows who she is, that maybe I could write the story behind it all at a later date. Well I have decided that I will do that as it will be helpful to me, and I think perhaps interesting for you to read. I will have to write it, and re-write it but finish it I will. Watch this space.....
Yesterday, Jim rang Norman, Mother`s husband, in Spain, to ask asked him how he is, and naturally he is completely devasted. They had only been married for 2 years and they were very happy together. The most shocking thing though, was the nature of the way her death was related to Norman..... It wasn`t..... On Sunday afternoon he left the hospital after his visit. He drove the fifty miles home and planned to go again Tuesday, which he did. When he arrived back at the hospital, she wasn`t there and nobody seemed to know where she was. So for the next hour he was sent to various departments in the hospital while enquiries were made. Then someone told him that she had died on Sunday, her heart giving up as the cancer progressed. He was shocked and angry that he hadn`t been told. Their excuse was that they had rung him at home and then sent the police to the house. But he had not left the house since getting home on the Sunday evening. He has made an official complaint to the hospital. I just hope for his sake that he at least gets an apology. If that were to happen here it would reach the daily papers and quite rightly so. Norman is 72 and he shouldn`t have to find out about his dear wife`s death in this way. This afternoon the funeral service was held, not being there I went with Jim to the local crematorium and took flowers and said my goodbyes. It seemed the right thing to do and it made me feel so much better for it.
So thank you all again my dear friends. :-)
6 comments:
Sandra, that was nice that you went to the crematorius with the flowers. Beautiful thank you graphic you have chosen. I know a lot of people have been thinking about you. That poor man, having to find out like that, his wife had died and he was not even told. You are correct, over here it would be a national scandal and probably on t.v. as well. One can only hope his official complaint will prevent it happening to anybody else. Look forward to reading whatever you write. xxxxxxxxx
I'm very sorry for your loss. May the Lord give you comfort and strength.
so sorry for you and going to the local crematorium was a respectful way to think of your Mum.Looking forward to what you write about her.
That is a shame that he had to find out about your mother's death that way. What a shock it must have been for him. I hope he does, at least, get an apology. Hope you are holding up alright Sandra?
Love and Hugs my dear,
Sharon
That's a good idea to write about your relationship with your mother - it'll help complete things for you now. Thinking of you.
David.
Thinking of you
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